Soaring Through Our Emotions
Have you ever found yourself in the middle of a circumstance that then led you to feeling overcome by hopelessness, disappointment, or sorrow?
I think we all have found ourselves here at one point during our lives…
I know I have, and while you’re facing it head on, it tends to spiral through all kinds of emotions (anger, sorrow, anxiety, depression, grief, and bitterness to name a few).
During these times in our lives, it is critical to tend to our hearts. One of the verses from the bible that comes to mind is:
“Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.”- Proverbs 4:23 NKJV
Our heart holds our emotions, and sometimes as Christian’s we try to ignore them. We have the tendency, at times, to ignore our feelings because our head knowledge reminds us, “Oh, you know being angry isn’t a good thing”, or “Hey, you need to be ashamed for feeling sorrowful”, and “Being sad isn’t scriptural or Christ-like.”
Well, God has put it on my heart to share how feeling emotions isn’t a shameful or a bad thing. What isn’t good is staying inside the sadness, anger, or bitterness, that then leads to hopelessness….
“I’ve learned to love my emotion…I have learned how to reject disappointment.” — Melissa Helser
Knowing the heart of The Father is our way out of these moments of despair, mourning, lament, anger, etc., so that we can avoid becoming hopeless or disappointed or sorrowful. When these moments happen we need to feel just like Jesus allowed himself to feel. He also knew how to tend to his heart so it wouldn’t overcome him. He turned to his Father in heaven.
When Jesus was facing hatred, scrutiny, criticism, abuse, pain, and sadness, he then directed himself right back towards his Father. He released his emotions to the Father. David also cried out in Psalms to his Father and Lord during times of trial. David allowed himself to feel, cry, and shout unto the Lord.
If Jesus had times of lament or mourning, then why can’t we? We just can’t lose our hope in Christ.
“Lamentation is a powerful, and meaningful, form of worship because it places our love for God above even the worst of circumstances in our life… God does not ask us to deny the existence of our suffering. He does want us to collect it, stand in those things and make Him an offering. The Holy Spirit, our Comforter, helps us to do this: He aligns Himself with our will and says, ‘I will help you to will to worship God.’ The glory of the majesty of God is that He helps us will and do.”- Graham Cooke
We always need to be in tune with what is really going on deep down in our hearts. If I am feeling bitterness towards a friend, then I need to pause, take a moment, and turn to God. Its OK to be real with God, with how we are feeling, so that we can sort through our emotions to then come out on the other side feeling hopeful.
When we find ourselves being overwhelmed with emotions constantly, that is a sign that it’s time to tend to our heart. So often, if we choose not to tend to our heart, that is when our life can spiral out of control, or even lead us to running away from God.
Whenever I am feeling angry, or sad, or anxious, I have really made a point to immediately direct it to God. I am 30 years old, and have been on this amazing journey with God since 2006. It hasn’t always been easy these past 11 years of my life. I can tell you, it hasn’t come naturally to me until recently. It is a choice I have to make. It’s retraining my mind and heart to stop for a moment during these times and realign with the heart of the Father.
This conscious effort will eventually turn into a natural response.
Wow, what a place to be in our walk with God when we can immediately recognize, “My heart needs tending. Hey, God! Can you help me?”
I will leave you with this—allow yourself to feel. If you just lost a loved one. cry. It is OK to cry. It allows our heart to heal. If you then become hopeless, stop and go to the Father. If you find yourself constantly angry, stop and go to the Father. If you are feeling so sad and have no joy, stop and go to the Father.
The more you turn to him the more you will learn his heart and his nature. When we can know the nature of the Father, we will always know who we are. We won’t lose hope and we won’t become disappointed. When we know his love towards us, we can allow ourselves to feel, but remain in touch with the Holy Spirit so our hearts will forever be tended.
— Jamie Pagani Teoli —